Originally Answered: Rape or "rape": has feminism defined rape into triviality?
I don't think it's that hard to figure out, what a "grey area" is, if men were victims of it as much as women are. What exactly would a man do if someone, say a physically stronger guy, drugged him, carried him nonchalantly to a room, and slammed an erect penis into his anus however many times it took until the perpetrator ejaculated? Maybe he'll do the same thing to his open mouth! How about if there was more than one, or even several, the drugged guy won't care, he's out cold? What if the perpetrators just fed him shots until he was hammered enough? Ever been to a bar and someone bought you shots? Did you ever wonder if they were only doing it so they could rape you later? And what exactly do you think would happen in court when you accused the guy of assaulting you, and what would your family or girlfriend say? Can you guarantee that no one would diminish your trauma, or humiliate you even further than you've already been? Would everyone even believe you, or would they just wonder secretly if you're a closet homosexual and that you probably enjoyed it? That's what the grey area is about. You have to be younger than me or else you would remember how things were not so long ago. The reason there is any of this stuff is because of actual reality. Laws only get passed for the most part after something tragic happens over and over.
As far as the weird counseling thing goes, that is freaking weird and scary. I think there are just a lot of people out there who are not too swift, honestly. I was in two different battered women's shelters in two different states (same guy, yes, psycho followed me) and some of the women who ran them were really ignorant. Feminists without a clue, they had no idea what they were rallying,fighting, whatever for, it certainly wasn't for me. Like armchair coaches, they had no personal experience but thought they knew all about being abused/stalked/hunted by another human being. Most of them acted like abuse victims were just stupid and if they were a better person they wouldn't have been in that situation in the first place. Those are the enemies who are in the ranks, wolves in sheep's clothing. So I'm essentially agreeing with you. I'm just saying that one thing is not the other thing.