Seeking advice from preferably female reverts.?
Topic: How to write a quality improvement plan
June 24, 2019 / By Cainan Question:
Hello all! :) I am a young woman, engaged to be married to the most wonderful man on the planet. He's Muslim, and I know that when we have children, that they will be raised Muslim. He has asked me to consider converting to Islam, but because he loves me, he will not force it upon me to convert (there will be no ultimatums). I have actually been mulling this over in my mind for at least the last six months, and I feel like the best thing to do for me, and my future family, would be to convert.
The only factor preventing me from converting now is the fact that I still live with my parents. A majority of my family, excluding my mother, is fundamentally Christian, and I know that by converting while living under my parents roof, I would be causing undue stress to my familny because of something that I desire. Once my situation changes (meaning, once my fiance and I move in with each other), I plan to share everything in my life with him, including religion. Although I was raised Christian, I never truly felt like it was a part of me. I haven't been to Church since March, and before that, I cannot even remember when I attended a service. How can I live with a religion for the rest of my life if I am not happy with it? I have seen so many people, namely people who call themselves Christians, act so inhumanely to others that I feel physically ill. I do not wish to have the same "title" as these folks.
Now, by wanting to share everything with my future husband, I am doing what any sane person would want to do. I am comfortable with not asking him to convert because I am not satisfied with what I call my religion.
Now, my main question is this: if you could offer any advice to someone who can see herself as a Muslimah in the future, what would it be?
Please do not think that I write this question blindly. In fact, I have read numerous books, both for and against Islam, and have been able to come up with reasons of my own as to why I would want to convert. There are points in the religion that I see valid, and that appeal to me. I'm not asking questions as to why or why I shouldn't convert, but rather, advice, perhaps, to help me along the way.
Best Answers: Seeking advice from preferably female reverts.?
Alerick | 6 days ago
I converted whilst living with my Parents. At that time they were quite religious and so it did come as something quite unexpected but they weren't stressed or angry they just tried (a lot) to convert me back to Christianity which is where most of the stress lies and has done over the past few years. Their main issues are with my practice of Islam and my mother doesn't fully support my decision to cover my hair although I'm with such a family that they support me with all that I do so long as they perceive no harm to me in doing it. I think the fundamental reason why there haven't been real problems with my conversion is that I did convert a while before I told them and in that time they had noticed a significant improvement in all areas of my life. When I told them what the reason was (Islam) they reluctantly gave me their full backing knowing that it was obviously something that had drastically improved the quality of my life.
I hope that if you do convert it will be for the right reasons. I know you state that it's not a blind choice but do be sure it's the right one. If you're not sure then you won't convince your mother that you're sure. As I said, my Mother gave her backing because she obviously had noticed what it meant to me and my future to be able to practice what I know believed to be the truth. If you're not happy with Xtainity that doesn't automatically mean that you will be happy with Islam because if you're not sure about that either, you'll probably run into the same brick wall.
All I say is thoroughly consider any decision and make sure that you have developed a sincerity and love. Make sure your intention to convert is solely for the purpose of God and only if/when you achieve that should you make sure a huge decision.
All the best InshaAllah. You're in my prayers.
Peace and God Bless.
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hello! I'm not a revert, but I'm a female muslim and I'd like to contribute nonetheless :D
a few points as i read:
1. congrats :)
2. "but because he loves me, he will not force it upon me to convert "
lol...this made me smile b/c, well..it's cute and idealistic :P
no Muslim is allowed to FORCE conversion...that is most definitely NOT our responsibility as we believe people only come to Islam by Allah's will and the only thing we should ever do is share a bit of knowledge when appropriate :)
so if he doesn't force you, that means he's following Islam
and not necessarily leaving 'religious practice for love' (which is the way you made it sound) b/c forcing is not religious practice
but i'm sure he loves you too :)
3. turning to Islam for the future of your family is a good idea (i'm sure it'll make things like identity issues more stable for kids) however, becoming a true Muslim is something you do for yourself
consider that when you get a chance...Islam is definitely a good choice :)
"How can I live with a religion for the rest of my life if I am not happy with it?"
this is why, for your own sake, you need to find out whether you can be Muslim for yourself
when you are happy with Islam, your kids will be happy with it
lol..i guess i answered your main question then :D
my advice: continue expanding your knowledge and if you'd like to chat about anything, I'd love to help insha'allah (and some of the people in this section are pretty cool too, so post lots of questions whenever you can)
knowledge strengthens faith, so really get into it
just like studying
and honestly, Islam is nothing but a modest way of life
so, should you decide to adopt it during the rest of your stay w/your family, I doubt they would even notice except that hopefully you will be more confident in your purpose in life
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you are most welcome sister and surely u did the right thing by having some knowledge about islam by ur self, you will be proud to introduce ur self as a muslimah, people will see u with respect..and active practice of islam will take out the best of you..you'll feel peace and if mother her self knows something she can teach her kids too..it'll be best for you and for your future family..but i'm happy to know that you are not doing it just for that and to make your future husband happy but you your self feel the need for it, and understand it's meaning,you can go to this site and ask everything u want to know about islam they have live chat..good luck, don't waste any more time..
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No DON'T make her think you're breaking up. That's horrible. How can she trust you if you're willing to play with her emotions like that? Just let the "I love you" come up as part of normal conversation. Don't make it a big deal (save that kind of thing for when you propose to someone!). Also, don't make her feel like she needs to say it back right away. My husband used the "L" word before I did, because I wanted to be sure.
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